Second time's the charm- Motherhood 2.0
- snigdha nahar
- Nov 15
- 2 min read
Picture perfect photos doesn’t mean picture perfect lives, 📸✨
This newborn photoshoot captures our love, our happiness and will always be a reminder of a moment in time, a picture-perfect smile, and of Siara as a crumpled, sweet newborn. 👶🏽🤍
What you don’t see but also what we wont forget when we see these photos:
🌿 This was the day when our japa (confinement nanny) suddenly left (14 days post-partum) in the middle of recovery for the whole family and post-natal adjustment period;
🧠 Breastfeeding was far from established for Siara and me and I was struggling with PTSD due to flashbacks from Rish’s not so ideal breastfeeding journey (yes despite my best attempts not to compare, I have constant worries about low milk supply!)
💗 The love, care and utter devotion from my wonderful mum during the post-partum period was coming to an end in less than a week as she had to leave
💪 The quiet (and sometimes loud) strength from my husband through the delivery and post-partum period (while himself fighting fatigue and infection, he once again excelled at being my hypnobirthing doula through a labour and delivery process which made me feel like a birth goddess!)
🌙 Learning to quieten my #sleepcoach and #overproductive brain which wants to log every feed, every sleep and realising there is rhythm in the madness, not a schedule, at this age (still a work in progress)
🫶 Accepting the need for attention that Rish had when she was born and also appreciating the unparalleled feeling that comes when he declares he already loves her the most in this world (super interesting for an only child mumma to see her sibling kids interact)
👴🏽 Seeing my dad tentatively hold a newborn this young for the first time and the happiness that it gave him to smile and just look at his grand-daughter (his grand-daughter (yes he claims he never even held me when I was this tiny!)
🧡 it truly takes a village to raise children and I am grateful to have family, friends and help through this period so there are days I am well-rested and can handle the sleep deprivation for the days I am not.
The fourth trimester is tender but has come with the usual post-partum crash and increased alertness all leading to an always-on feeling. Practising CALM (yes its an acronym), gratitude, meditation and the awareness that this is the last time I will hold my own newborn this young, every day which passes is ethereal. Even then some days just get too much. 💚
This World Mental Health Day on Oct 10, I truly believe that we have to save our mind at all costs as my guru says and early parenting is especially sensitive to those so watch out for new mums and dads around you and be sure to ask them how they are really doing! 🌍
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